Thursday, November 22, 2012

Thanks Without Angst

As a type A personality, this week always marked the start of stress season.  From making the perfect Turkey, to the right hors d'oeuvres, perfect linens, etc, etc, etc.  And to top it off I am blessed with  a family that might as well replace the word "meal" with "drama".

Then 2 years ago, someone told me about their in-laws.  There is actually a family out there who does not stress.  They do not guilt each other into showing up, or excel at one-upmanship.  They simply celebrate the day and invite you to join.  It is up to you whether or not to accept.  Either way, they celebrate.

So I tried it.  "I'm cooking dinner at my house.  You're welcome to join us."  That was it.  It was freeing.  No drama.  Everyone is doing want they want.  Everyone is happy.  I am thankful for my happy family.

And  about that Turkey?  Well, think of it this way.  The worst case scenario is that I will have a total meal disaster and have to order pizza.  I am thankful that no matter what, we will not go hungry this day.  Or any day this week.

And my house will not be perfect.  I will probably have dust somewhere, or forget to perform some crucial act like refinishing  the floors.  But my house will be warm and safe.  I am thankful for that.

And if someone teases me because my linens don't match, I will laugh and be thankful that my mom is still around to help me celebrate this special day.

Happy Thanksgiving.

I hope you laugh today.


  1. Yay for freedom from high stress. You've got the right attitude - holidays are for celebrating, not giving ourselves coronaries. ;D This was our first Thanksgiving in this home, and I was truly wondering if the oven would do its glitch thing on the turkey and we'd be last-minute trooping out together to Cracker Barrel. lol!~! But it worked out just fine and we had a very nice feast together with mis-matched linen and unopened moving boxes (3 months later) still in the corners here and there. :D

  2. Funny how it all works out fine, with or without the stress! And what a great memory you created in your new home. That's really something to be thankful for! Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment. You made my day.